A lady reached out on Reddit for some advice on her family situation. Her son, who hasn’t had the best luck in love, has finally found someone special. But when she met his girlfriend, she learned something surprising about her. Now, she’s not sure how to break the news to her husband, fearing he might not approve of their relationship.
Her son went through a really tough breakup.
She’s got 3 sons, aged 32, 28, and 26. They’re all doing pretty well for themselves, which is awesome. But here’s the thing: her older and younger sons were the life of the party back in high school and college. The oldest son got married when he was 29, and the youngest is about to tie the knot too.
Now, her middle son? He’s a bit different. Right from the get-go, he was all about school and planning for the future. He even moved out early, into his place. But here’s where it gets complicated. This middle son had this terrible ex-girlfriend. They’d been together since they were 17, but she cheated on him multiple times. It took him eight long years to realize she wasn’t good for him, but eventually, he broke it off.
But now things are looking up.
Her middle son’s relationship with the rest of the family has been a bit tough. His brothers haven’t been the most supportive because he’s single, but she knows it’s because of the tough time he had with his ex, messing up his love life and confidence. Her husband gets it too.
About six months back, he started dating this new girl he met recently. The woman was thrilled to hear he found someone, especially since she’s described as really smart and educated, just like him. They seemed to click well, which made her happy. So, the woman was eager to meet this new girlfriend. But her son mentioned she’s pretty shy, so it took some time. Finally, after six months, she said she was ready.
She learned some startling information about her son’s significant other.
The woman shared about the long-awaited meeting with her son’s partner, describing it as a positive experience. She expressed how a lovely girl entered hand in hand with her son, «He was right, she is very shy. We all introduce ourselves, and we will call her Sadie. Sadie was quiet but sad hi to everyone.» As the evening progressed, the woman invited Sadie to assist with meal preparations, initiating a casual conversation about how they met.
Later on, her son entered the room and playfully nudged Sadie. She responded with a teasing expression and lightly tapped his arm. In a jovial exchange, he lifted her as they shared laughter.
Observing their interaction, the woman jokingly advised her son to be gentler with Sadie, «Sorry, three boys. Sometimes they are a little too rough, but he is harmless». Sadie replied, «I know he is. I used to wrestle with my dad and brother growing up, too». The woman was surprised that her mom allowed that. Sadie giggled, «Well, I used to be a boy, so I guess it was different.»
At this point, the mother is uncertain about her next steps.
She expressed her initial surprise at recent revelations but ultimately prioritized her son’s happiness above her concerns. She admitted, «To be honest, I am very surprised, but my son has never been so happy, so I dropped it. I honestly just couldn’t believe it. I mean, you would never know. She is gorgeous.» When asked if she sees her son’s girlfriend differently, she responded warmly, reassuring her that as long as she treats her son well and makes him happy, that’s all that matters.
Later, she discussed her concerns with her son about introducing his girlfriend to his dad. She mentioned, «I brought up our conversation, and he said he knows. He said that she is just really shy about it, and doesn’t talk about it at all. She just tries to run under the radar. He said that since you know, we need to tell dad, but they discussed me kind of pre-telling my husband. Before tomorrow evening.»
The comments section was buzzing with advice from people eager to share their thoughts.
- «I think if she wants you to tell your husband first, you should. I can imagine it is a scary thing for her to meet a new partner’s family. She probably wants to protect herself from any potential negative reaction. If your husband is told by someone else, he can process and react to the information in any way he does while she’s not right in front of him. I do not think you should put the burden on her to come out as trans to a man she doesn’t know. If you do not want to tell your husband, you could tell your son to do it... but one if you should.» Snoo5911 / Reddit
- «As someone who is trans, it’s complicated. Some want to be out and open, they don’t want to hide it. Others are afraid of the consequences of not saying something and figure doing so, in the beginning, will avoid conflict later on. I personally only think my partner should know, but right now, their family would have to know too.» MissionIssue2062 / Reddit
- «Tell him. Let him know that your son is happy. I’ve always been the type that wants my loved ones to be happy above all else. When they’re happy, everything just seems better. There’s no worry about them. There’s just a smile on your face because there’s a smile on their face.» BornWeiner / Reddit
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